Many people have told me that I’m a chill mom, and I embrace that label wholeheartedly. My son, Kazuki, is incredibly curious, and I believe in allowing him to explore the world around him, even if it means letting him play with tools like screwdrivers, climb ladders, or use a knife. At just 1.5 years old, some might say it’s too early for these activities, and I’ll admit he’s had a few bumps and scrapes along the way. However, I see these experiences as valuable learning opportunities.
When I say no to Kazuki, it often makes him want to do things even more. I can relate to that feeling; I’ve always been someone who pushes back against restrictions. I want him to explore and experiment while I’m present, guiding him on how to use tools safely and effectively. In the short time he’s been alive, he’s already learned so many skills, and I’m learning alongside him.
For instance, I’ve modified tools to make them more accessible for him. I shortened a vacuum cleaner so he can hold and use it, and he’s taken to unscrewing and screwing things, cutting apples, and even climbing up to wet a towel and wipe the table. While I encourage exploration, I do maintain firm boundaries around truly dangerous situations and I’m always within arm’s reach during climbing activities.
It’s amazing to see his confidence grow, but I won’t lie—sometimes it’s frustrating. Tasks that used to take me minutes can take two to three times longer when he’s involved. Yet, I’m learning patience through this process.
I have to admit that I lose my cool from time to time, especially when he makes a mess or throws a tantrum. It’s a constant reminder that he is his own person, distinct from me, and I’m navigating this journey through trial and error. The skills I’ve honed in building businesses and leading teams have definitely prepared me for this. I often think of it as “Aim, Shoot, and Correct”—a mantra that applies to both parenting and entrepreneurship.
In fostering Kazuki’s independence, I aim to instill values like curiosity, resilience, and problem-solving. I want him to feel empowered to try new things, even if it means making mistakes along the way. Each time he learns something new, whether it’s how to use a tool or how to clean up after himself, I see him growing into a capable individual.
When friends or family express concern about my approach, I explain that supervised risk-taking builds confidence and competence. Just last week, Kazuki surprised me by opening the fridge door, getting out the milk, and handing it to me to fill his bottle—all without asking for help. These moments confirm that the extra time and occasional mess are worthwhile investments.
Ultimately, my approach to parenting is about balance. I want to provide him with the freedom to explore while ensuring he understands safety and responsibility. It’s a journey filled with challenges, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. I remind myself that every mess, every tantrum, and every moment of frustration is part of the beautiful chaos of raising an independent child.
As you navigate your own parenting journey, remember that it’s okay to embrace the messiness. Celebrate the small victories, be patient with yourself and your child, and trust that you’re doing an amazing job. Your unique approach is what makes your parenting style special, and it’s a testament to the love and dedication you have for your child.
